Sometimes, you never know how deep the hole can go. I never knew it either, but apparently, when you think you are really depressed and you can’t go any lower, life says: “you know what? Let’s go 3 floors lower.” What I would love to do, is to escape the recesses of my own mind. The birthplace and labyrinth of new ideas and new creations, but also my worst enemy as well. Introversion is a personality trait for some people, and they like it this way, but I think introversion has turned itself against me.
13 Reasons Why (stylised as TH1RTEEN R3ASONS WHY) is an American television series based on the 2007 novel Thirteen Reasons Why by Jay Asher and adapted by Brian Yorkey for Netflix. The plot revolves around Hannah Baker, a high school student, who dies by suicide. Two weeks later, Clay Jensen, one of her closest friends, finds a package on his doorstep containing 13 audio cassettes made by Hannah explaining the 13 reasons why she killed herself, and Clay is one of them. In order to find out how he fits in, Clay must listen to the tapes.
Remember: mental illness is a flaw in chemistry, not character. It’s important to know that it’s normal to feel some of the different symptoms associated with mental illness from time to time. But if it’s affecting your everyday life, if you stop participating in activities you love or if it’s disrupting your success in school, you may want to seek help. Rule of thumb: if you’re suffering, get professional mental health help. You don’t have to feel this way.
Beautiful by Christina Aguilera – This is one of the more popular songs about depression/low self-esteem and bullying. Christina Aguilera’s dark and heavy vocals add weight to the song, with a tinge of sadness. “Words can’t bring you down/Don’t you bring me down today” tells us that words can’t hurt us. However, hurtful or negative words might become etched in our memory forever, ambushing us when we least expect it.
Today’s the third last day of university life for me, and I have successfully accomplished the task of befriending the resident cat at school. Nothing school or job related. To be honest, I do feel the impending dearth of future aspirations. It’s like training to be a teacher and then, well, not becoming a teacher.
“Imagine you had a dog, and suddenly you had to put it to sleep after 10 years of caring for it. How would you feel?” That’s the analogy used in Every Brillant Thing, a play by Bhumi Productions, used to describe a person who was lost to suicide. An audience member was asked to re-enact a scene as a vet using euthanasia to put the protagonist’s dog to sleep.
Mental health: A state of well-being in which the individual realises his or her own abilities, can cope with the normal stresses of life, can work productively and fruitfully, and is able to make a contribution to his or her community. ~ World Health Organisation
Welcome to Winding Through The Willows! This is a site dedicated to raising awareness for not just mental illness, but mental health and self-care too. Amongst others, we talk about mental illness; where and when to seek help; risk factors of mental illness; coping skills; and, the importance of self-care.
Allow me to quote a quote by Jim Mahoney. “I wish people knew that taking one’s life can feel like sneezing to a severely depressed person, that it can be a mere reaction to the body’s overwhelming message, that after fighting a sneeze for years and years, some people simply can’t sneeze anymore, that they should not be condemned or demonized for sneezing.” – Jim Mahoney
Sometimes I think: I don’t understand how a person who believes in God can simultaneously have a chronic mental illness, or stay embittered in past hurts. But I realise that just as being in therapy couldn’t be a quick fix, going to church will never satisfactorily answer all my big questions either.
[Spectrum: Band of colours formed from a beam of light (1670s); from Latin, literally ‘image, apparition’ (1610s); word origin, spec(ere) ‘to look at, see’ (1605)]
Writing a post on coping strategies does strike me as coming full circle. I started my mental health journey relying very much on distractions and healthy coping methods, such as studying, running, and prayer. While they were crucial to my remaining functional at home and school for a long, long time (no complaints there!), I continued to struggle badly with disconcerting mood swings in private. Eventually, as is prone to happen to even the most stoic of us (much less me), I exhausted my inner resources and turned to not-so-healthy ways of coping.
Anyone with any form of mental illness has heard it. An entirely well-meaning bit of advice. A genuine attempt to help. ‘You should go for a run’.*
Mental illness is a term that seems to be appearing often in the media now. On television, in the cinema, on the news, you hear people talk about depression, anorexia, psychosis… 1In Singapore, 1 in 12 people have a mental illness. Yet, a lot of people still do not know what they actually mean. Before going into the specific terms like depression, let’s look at what mental illness is.
What if your mum was hospitalised in a hospital for a suicide attempt? What would you do? For Johnny Donahoe, he decided to write down a list of things which were worth living for.
Welcome to Winding Through The Willows! We are Winding Through The Willows, and we want to provide mental health resources and information in Singapore.