Alonism should not be confused with escapism or isolationism, which is the act of purposefully avoiding social contact. Escapism or isolationism can be a cause, side effect and result of alonism. It should also not be confused with the definition of one who is extremely weird in nature and behaviour.
‘Alonism’, I think is one of the worst things that could happen to someone who is struggling with mental health issues. It’s the act of not having somebody to talk to, nobody to share their feelings with, yet not wanting to be in a social situation – all at the same time. The fear of speaking to somebody about their problems and (not exactly) bothering somebody with their problems, combined with the fear of being isolated can lead to a state of struggling between wanting to speak to someone, yet not having anyone to speak to.
That fear can lead to many escaping from social situations and isolating themselves from others. It’s a self-repeating cycle of not wanting to speak to anyone, yet wanting someone to speak to. It’s this unexplainable struggle of someone who might be depressed, anxious or avoidant in nature. It can be the result of having been shunned or not being taken seriously in social situations. I would love to go for a walk or jog like I have done before. But why would I want to stress myself to isolation in a public location when I can safely isolate myself at home? Humans are innately social creatures. We turn to stupid things (like addiction) when we are alone, and that can include more escapism and more isolation.
Sometimes, I feel it’s very simple to break the cycle, yet nobody is willing to. Not those who are suffering, or those who are claiming to be supporting them in their journey of support.
You’ll be surprised what a simple, genuine friendship can do.